About Chinese Women

If you're currently a member of a web dating site about Asian women or Chinese women then you're probably there because you're looking for a change from the type of personal relationships that now seem to exist between Western Men and Western Women. You're tired of women who grew up in the "ME" generation, always looking strictly for "What's in this relationship for me?" Nowadays, when you meet a new Western Woman who you find attractive, before the conversation has even really begun, she's already drilling you about your occupation and your assets. How much money do you make and how much "stuff" do you have.

You've heard that Chinese Women are different than that, so you're online to check it out.

Well first, let's be honest. A Chinese Woman will also want to know that you have an income and that you are financially stable. Like women everywhere, she also wants a secure future. The difference is, most Chinese Women come from a world where a normal job is a great job, a simple home is a great home, and family is everything. Will there be food on the table - good enough. Will we have a home that I can clean and cook in and make comfortable for you - good enough. You're a truck driver (mechanic, teacher, male nurse, etc) - that's fantastic. Just be reliable.

If you want a simple life where you do your job, which is the primary income earner, and she does her job, which is manage the home and family, then Chinese women make great life partners. That's not to say that she won't help you with business if that's what you want, but you'll be the boss. And it doesn't mean she's not prepared to have a job too. She will likely prove to be a very hard worker. It does mean that running the home is her job as well. You will have a say in all the important decisions, but when it comes to day to day operations sit back and let her take over, it's what she does best.

But here is the most important thing - a Chinese Woman marries for life. Once she commits, she will invest every ounce of her being into your future, your home, your family and your life together. If that is the kind of wife you want, then you're in the right place. Her priorities in approximate order are husband and children, parents (hers and yours), home, face (what does the world think of your family), herself, her importance to you, her job, her friends.

Chinese women want to love you and they want to be loved by you. Unlike Western Women, they will not be out to instantly change you the moment they have their grip on you. So long as you meet two requirements they will be happy. First, you must love them. Second, you must not be frivolous with money; that is you won't spend your last dime on whiskey when the kids are hungry. Well frankly, if you are that frivolous with money then you really need a Chinese Woman more than she needs you.

Chinese women like to spend as much time with you as possible. The more you can be together the happier they are. They're happy to go out with you and play, spend time at the movies, relax in a pub with your friends, walk on a beach, anything so long as she is with you. Equally a quiet night at home is perfect. To her, time with her husband is important. But that doesn't mean you have to be with her every moment, it just means that every moment of your time you do give to her will be appreciated.

Unlike Western Women, a Chinese Woman will not sit around with her buddies secretly badmouthing you. To her, if you look bad she looks bad, and she would lose face. So long as you are covering the bare basics, she will outwardly praise you to the roof, because if her friends think you look good, then she gains face. And if she says you're a bad husband, then implicitly she is failing as a wife.

China's economy is growing fast, and these days most Chinese are proud of their place in the world and believe in their future. Just the same, the chance to live in the West, to get a passport from your country, to improve her economic status remains a potential motive for marrying a Western Man. But if it is so, it is low on a long list of motives. The number one motivator by far for a Chinese Woman to seek to marry a Western Man is that she is undervalued by Chinese Men. She wants someone who will appreciate her for the many things she does for him, who will treat her with respect, who will love her. She often cannot find that at home.

In addition, while many young Chinese Women are looking for someone who will treat them as equals, Chinese Women over the age of about 28 are already beginning to find few Chinese Men who are interested in them as life partners. While Western Men appreciate a partner who has life experience and is a real woman, Chinese Men want young girls to fill that role, to the extent that a Chinese Woman over 30 has become almost unmarketable as a wife.

Not to be repetitive, but Chinese women want you to love them and they want to love you, to look after your needs, to fulfill your desires. In their minds, one makes a good life and a good future through a good and loving marriage and a good home. To most Chinese women marriage is the most important single thing in life, because it is the center point of their existence from the moment they enter into marriage until the moment of their death. It is not to be taken lightly.

Chinese women like to please their men, and to receive acknowledgment that they have pleased him. Every Chinese woman loves it when her man gives her a little gift, because it means she has pleased him and he appreciates it.

None of this is to say that they never will be angry, never will express their concerns. And when a Chinese Woman reaches the boiling point, sit back and stay silent. Let her get it out, let her have her say, and acknowledge her righteousness, or watch out. And if you abuse her, physically or emotionally, then all we've said will go out the window. An abusive husband has no right to expect her respect and love. But given proper respect, she will return it many times over. She will honor your love, your marriage and your family, always placing your needs and those of your children above her own.

Generally Chinese woman are beautiful, inside and outside. 1 in 10 Chinese Women are obese. They are very feminine, sometimes childlike in spirit, petite and delicate. They take great care of their physical appearance. They almost always look 10 years younger than they are. Very few smoke or drink. They like to try new things, explore, and they love to laugh and have fun.

To most Chinese Women age difference is not a major factor in choosing their life partner. They are often attracted to older men, and 10 to 20 years difference is not a big problem to most, but you need to consider if it is important to you. A Chinese Women with little life experience can be just as trying as a Western Woman to a Western Man who has reached an age of little patience.

Chinese women like sex, but with many (not everyone, but many) their knowledge is a little limited. While they view it as an act of nature, they have not usually been with a partner who treats it as more than a quick event to satisfy himself, with his partner's needs of no importance. So you may find yourself needing to do some teaching and coaching, but her response will almost always be one of delight and openness. With patience and guidance she will become an excellent partner, because, again, you are her husband and she wants to please you.

If a Chinese Woman appeals to you you're not alone. And obviously web dating is a great way to find, meet and get to know Chinese women.

John Abbot (nom de plume) is married to a lovely Chinese Lady and has lived in China for several years. John knows, loves and respects the Chinese Women, Chinese People and Chinese Culture.

For more good stuff by this author about Chinese Women, International Relationships and Things Chinese go to http://www.ChinaLoveMatch.net and click on CLM eMagazine.

Online Dating Tips - Email Techniques To Get Her Attention

Have you ever checked your inbox more than twice a day, hoping to get a reply from that hot girl you emailed? How about more than every 2 hours? How about every 15 minutes? Don't worry, it's happened to most of us guys at some point... and we never figure out why. We've got a good online dating profile and a flattering photo, but still... no replies.

Why doesn't that hot girl write you back?

Let's start by looking at the average email a guy sends a girl on an online dating website. Now, I'm not accusing you of writing one of these, but just in case you *might* have, we should take a quick look. It goes something like:

"Hi, I saw your profile and you are really cute! I like your hat in that picture, it's really nice, where did you get it? Anyway, come take a look at my profile and if you like what you see, email me!"

This email can be broken down into three parts. Bad. Badder. Baddererest.

Sentence 1: Bad

The last thing a girl who gets 50 emails a day wants to read is another average guy saying another average thing. Also, ban "cute" from your vocabulary. Cute is so bland and overused, it barely has any meaning to women anymore. Besides, women want to be beautiful. Not cute. Ask them!

Sentence 2: Badder

"I like your hat" is a good example of the bad online dating advice given out by MSN and Yahoo! online dating "experts". They say "find something in her profile or photo and ask her about it." That's great if you want to be her friend, but it doesn't make any kind of connection, so forget it. I'll tell you what to ask about in a minute when I'm done having my fun tearing apart this bad email.

Sentence 3: Baddererest (yes it's a word... at least it is now!)

Just a well educated guess, but I'd say 80% of bad emails to girls end with "come take a look at my profile and if you like what you see, email me." What's wrong with that? First, everyone does it. Second, you need to end your email with a command, not a suggestion! Salesmen and marketers call it a "call to action", like "BUY NOW!" You don't need to go that heavy, but realistically, anything commanding and interesting is better than a passive "if you like what you see..." You'd be better off ending it with "rabid monkeys are eating my fingers as I type, email me back or they'll finish me off!" Actually, I kind of like that one. Feel free to try it out.

Thus ends our "Anatomy of a Bad Email" lesson...

Now let's make a good email!

The most important online dating advice I can give you is... BE INTERESTING! Most guys write the same boring stuff over and over. If you really want to blow her away, try a combination of these two:

1) Have a sense of humor 2) Be insightful

Point 1: How to have a sense of humor

You want to learn how to write funny emails? First, read her profile up and down, back and forth. Pick out something that is completely unique to this girl, and ignore all the stuff she's written that you've seen already in dozens of other women's dating profiles.

Example: She says, "I'm smart, funny, unique, love baseball, study medicine, and also work on a chicken farm."

Forget everything but the chicken farm. The chicken farm makes her unique! Try to let your brain come up with the craziest, funniest observations you can. You might write something like:

"A chicken farm? I love chicken! We'd be the perfect couple... You could poach extra chickens from work and I could fence them on the chicken black market. Eventually we could build up a nest egg and flee the coup to sunny Chichen Itza!"

Wow, that's a bad set of puns, even for me. Anyway, you get the picture. You are touching on what makes her unique, the little point that most guys ignore in order to go for the easy and mundane stuff like "I like your hat." Picking out the unique points alone will get her attention, and having a sense of humor about them will win her over.

Point 2: How to be insightful

Guys don't really read profiles. Sure, we skim them over a couple times and look for points to talk about, but we don't read between the lines. We don't really look for the depth of her words, the subtext of what she is really saying... what she is really asking for. What am I talking about? Let's go right to an example.

Here's a section of a woman's profile:

"I've been here before, perhaps too many times, each time a little more jaded. If only we could be more honest with each other, the world would be a better place. I'm looking for a guy who is kind, faithful, and sincere."

Is she saying she is looking for a kind, faithful, sincere guy?

Only on the surface. What she is really telling us is...

"I've been hurt by men."

How did I get that out of the above paragraph? Re-read what she's saying: she's come back time after time, even more jaded, which means she's gone through numerous relationships, each of them having ended badly. She's wishing for more honesty, which means she's faced a lot of deceit. And she's looking for a guy who is kind, faithful and sincere, which heavily suggests that she knows what she wants because she's done time with a lot of guys who have been unkind, unfaithful, and insincere to her.

So, I see this profile and I see a girl who has been hurt, and I know that she will respond to a guy who is kind, faithful and sincere? So is that how I present myself?

*NO!*

I'm going to do even better. There's a guy that she'll respond to way more readily than the above guy... a guy who UNDERSTANDS HER! Forget everything about what women say they want on the surface! Deep down... they want to be understood (we all do really). Being a guy who understands who she really is and sympathizes with her is much more powerful and rare.

To address that, I would write something like:

"I read your profile and couldn't help but feel a twinge of sadness at your words. We all seek happiness in life, but disappointment certainly seems to find its way in often enough. Like you, I simply seek a bright sunny day in a cloudy world."

I don't confront her issues directly of course, a subtle brush is all it takes to get her attention and let her know that the potential is there. This would certainly get her attention away from the guys who write "I'm sincere, honest, and faithful." You know... the same guys that hurt her in the past?

There are many other techniques to get a girl's attention in an email, but these two also demonstrate the valuable traits of humor and insightfulness, which will make you much more attractive to her. Pick out the little unique gem in her profile and make it shine with humor. Read deep into the subtext of her profile, and sympathize with it. She'll email you back.

What... you thought it would be as simple as writing "Hey baby, what's up?" :)

Cheers and happy dating!

Dylan Alexander

Dylan Alexander has been meeting women online since the pre-internet days of computer BBS systems. He's currently part of a company called Way Of Attraction Inc. that teaches men the art of being attractive to women naturally, without deceit or headgames. He took what he knew of online communication, and women and attraction and began to compile it all into a book called Online Casanova. The book teaches not just the philosophy of online attraction, but specifically how to create it through writing techniques. Although it is written primarily for men, women have also found it life changing when it comes to their online dating problems.

His blog with other writings can be found here:
http://onlinecasanova.blogspot.com

His book can be found here:
http://www.onlinecasanova.com

21 Reasons Why You Are Not Dating The Man Of Your Dreams

1. You and your small group of friends have made it a habit to hang out on weekends at the same night clubs and bars in your town.

2. You have stopped making the effort to look your best and as a result men no longer find you attractive.

3. Your self-esteem is low. You have lost the air of confidence you once had. When you radiate confidence, people will take notice and want to get to know you.

4. You are not outgoing. You are not very comfortable reaching out to the opposite sex in social situations.

5. When you do meet someone that you like, you do not give them any indication that you are even slightly interested.

6. When you get the opportunity to talk to men, you do not have anything interesting to say about yourself or the the many things happening around the world.

7. Nothing excites you, and it shows in the way you carry yourself.

8. Smiling to strangers is not your most favorite activity.

9. You have not changed your wardrobe in years. You wear sweat pants all day and do not make an effort to dress to impress.

10. You do not volunteer to help out at community activities or social events organized by friends.

11. You do not like going to sporting events, concerts, movies or anything that has to do with being around large groups of people.

12. You do not like to kiss men, and you are not particularly affectionate.

13. You cannot dance and do not want to learn how to dance.

14. You do not have a good sense of humor and you are easily offended when people make fun of you.

15. You are not engaged in any activities outside your home, such as, taking classes, going to the gym, the theater, or cultural events.

16. You are not approachable, and men can read the seriousness on your face from a mile away.

17. You are controlling and hate to compromise on anything.

18. You are so particular about the kind of man you are looking for. Nobody you meet is good enough to go out with.

19. You are not the cleanest person. You just may have a body odor that you are not even aware of.

20. You are a gold digger, and men can feel that you just want what is in their wallets.

21. You are intimidated by other women who seem to have it all, and when you are in their presence, you feel that you cannot compete with them for the single men in your midst.

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Killer Ways To Approach A Woman - Be The Ultimate King Of The Hill & Achieve Great Results

So are you really clueless on how to approach a random woman? There are thousands of books written on this topic providing you with all sorts of different ways you can approach a woman. Therefore there are thousands of ways you can use to approach them. But the fact is that not all those thousands of ways work. There are only a handful of useful ways which actually get results with dating and women. Read on to discover what these ways are and achieve mind blowing results.

Forget the common one liners- One liners never seem to work and the moment a woman hears a one liner she knows what you are looking for. You see women get approached by so many men that they know what the very next guy is going to say to them. Therefore the trick here is to be unpredictable. Be someone women simply can't predict.

Go straight up to them- This is probably the best way to approach a woman. Yes I know all those dating books give you thousands of different ways but this is the one which actually works. Be confident and go up to her. Introduce yourself and try to make a small chit chat. You see if she tries to avoid you than move on and don't even look back. Yes that's the big trick right there, never even look back at her just move on. This would make her feel somewhat neglected and she would be left thinking about you.

Keep trying- Trying is the key here. You might fail the first, second, third or even the tenth time but you might succeed on another attempt. You see it might take time but you will get results when your confidence builds up and you start building up skills.

What you don't know yet- Ever tried to wonder what's in a woman's mind? What is she thinking about? Do you know that women do not always mean what they say? They might say something and mean the exact opposite. But what do women actually want? Do you know there are some secrets women don't want men to know but men absolutely must know these secrets in order to succeed with women? Read on to discover some of the most "Shocking Secrets" women don't want men to know- 9 Most Shocking Secrets Women don't want men to know

Relationship Advice

"When we ask advice, we are usually looking for an accomplice", as this saying goes that is quiet imminent that for the relationship advice we have looking forward to a person as a culprit and for all problems in life we need the support of the person which helps us to seek advice may be if it is from a professional.

The level and kind of relationship defines that what kind of advice we have been looking forward. If a child is entering into a relationship with a new friend in a different environment, then as a parent it become inherent for the parent to look into that what is the nature of the other person with whom he is befriending with? In case parents find it that the new relationship is detrimental to the child then they should advice the child to shun the relationship at that very stage before it become a deep rooted friendship.

In this age the freedom to the children is given whole heartedly by the parent. Therefore it is not wise on part of the parent to look into the very small aspect of their child, but here the relationship advice.

At the same time is very necessary so that the child should be felt conscious that his activities are being monitored which is more helpful then giving advice in the later stage when the situation goes out of hand.

Since, it is the time when everybody is running after something and therefore, people generally have no time to look into the detailed aspect of the others life but then relationship advice is something very important and it can't be ignored in anyway which is must for making the relationship more strong and meaning. The relationship advice is acting as the filler and it can't be taken for granted for a long time.

Advice which is often being sought by people is hardly being acted upon. There are lots of people out there to give you the advice but they hardly act on it. Therefore what the people in general preach as relationship advice they find it tough even to convince the people that they are themselves doing it and therefore the advice should not be ignored in anyways.

In the matrimonial relationship the relationship advice are also being sought by the couple. Sometime they really find it tough to maintain the stable relationship and that where the professional are footing in them and give the relationship advice which is fruitful to the people in large to sort out there differences and they move along with there cool and stable life.

These days the husband and wife both are in job and they are finding it tough to find time for each other and that's where the problems in the relationship start creeping in. The relationship advice, if not sought in the right time then the relationship may end in a divorce therefore, the professional are there in large number and they are giving the advice and this business is also thriving these days. Therefore, the relationship advice is the latest reality of the 21st century and people are seeking it in large number so that they maintain pace not just in there carrier but at the same time in the family life also.

Nisha Sharma is staff writer at http://www.womenbrands.com She writes on women relationship and Psychology. Visit womenbrands.com for more about women.

E-mails Guaranteed to Attract Other Singles

When you join an online dating site, you need to be aware that your writing skills will play the most important part of how you communicate. Almost all of the early interaction online takes place in the form of written word. You will "write" things out when you send an email or chat online.

Writing about ourselves is often the hardest thing for each of us to do. It's difficult for most people to sell themselves. People are generally too modest and it's difficult for them to highlight their personality traits. It's much easier to talk about others than about ourselves.

Writing your online profile is the first thing that you need to do when you sign up for a dating service. This goes with your picture and it helps other members to get an idea about who you are. There are various articles out there to assist you with this, including one I've written with a link at the bottom of this page, but I want to focus on what to do once you've completed that process.

The next task you need to work on is developing an email approach that you are going to send to profiles that interest you. Take time and pay attention in great detail when you craft this. This is your sales pitch, and you are trying to sell yourself enough so that the person feels inclined to respond to your email.

You are going to create a "template" to use for all of your initial contact emails. What I mean by this is you only need to go through this process once. Take some time and sit down and write a brief introduction about yourself. Focus on keeping it to two paragraphs (one is preferred) which highlight you and your interests. Make it direct and give just enough information that the recipient will want to know just a little bit more.

You are going to continually use this "template" for each email approach you send out, but make sure to take a few minutes to really personalize each email. The last thing you want to do is just send your profile out without personalizing it. The easiest way to do this is to make a reference to something that they mentioned in their profile. If you can incorporate this into your email, your response rate will increase exponentially.

Which email would you be more inclined to respond to?

• Option #1: Hi, I think you look like a nice lady and I'd like to get in touch with you.

• Option #2: I just saw your profile on (name site) and you look like just the type of lady I'd be interested in learning a little more about. You mentioned how you were an outdoor person in your profile, and that's exactly how I would describe myself. I enjoy.........(fill in the rest).

Once you begin browsing at various profiles, start to take some notes and come up with a shortlist of profiles (7-10) that seems to be of interest. Send an email out to each of those profiles.

You don't want to put all of your eggs in one basket. Remember that the focus of these online dating sites is to get your profile in front of as many people as possible. You are looking to initiate discussions with as many quality singles as you can.

One last thing, don't get your hopes up too high. You need to anticipate that your email will not illicit a response. Just because you sent an email does not guarantee that you will receive a response. People don't always respond to their email, and they have many reasons why.

Once you've completed this, the next step is to head over to the chat rooms and see what's going on over there.

Jim McMenamin is the webmaster and creator of MacsDatingSite.com a blog dedicated to the various issues of online dating. For a limited time, Jim is giving away two free eBooks, 10 Tips To Writing Your Online Dating Profile as well as 101 Steps To A Happy Relationship, when you sign up for his newsletter

What to Talk About on a Date

Want a successful date? You are all excited about the date you're going on with that handsome hunk. You've spent the last few days going all out to achieve that perfect look. You probably have gone through some romance magazine on how to prepare for a successful date. You've got your hair cut, crimped and colored, had a facial, manicure and pedicure; you've even managed to do a few extra sit-ups to flatten that already flat tummy. That little black dress you reserved for this special occasion fits you perfectly. You look great, feel great and just can't wait!! You feel ultra-confident and know you're going to make a great first impression on your date. Relax!

Now that you're all set to look drop-dead gorgeous- Stop! Take a few minutes off from the hustle and bustle of looking good and just relax. Now is probably a good time to think of 'what next'. You've made a good first impression, you now need to work at it and hold your date's interest with some interesting conversation to make a successful date. No you don't need to brush up on your IQ or catch up with current events or politics. Your date is interested in dating you - the person, not a walking, talking encyclopedia. Have fun!

Really, it's easier than you think and just gets even easier as you go along. Just relax, smile, make eye contact and have fun! If this the first time both of you are going on a date together you may want to know a bit more about each other.For a successful date exchange information about where you were born and a little bit about your childhoods. A fun topic would be reliving yours as well as your dates first day in school. If either of you have just moved into the area, an interesting topic would be what it was like living and growing up in another state.

Make Music

Music and movies are great topics for conversations for a successful date and a good choice should be made all this will lead a date on how to prepare a successful date. They are light-hearted, allow for independent opinion without causing any heated discussions. Talk about your favorite group or artist and talk about the highlights of that great concert you went to! Discus the latest blockbuster movie that's running in theaters all over and what impressed you most abut it. Find out what movies or music your date is interested in. You are sure to find a genre that both of you are great fans of. This could open the door for a few concert dates or maybe a few dates at the movies. Hobbies anyone?

Hobbies are another easy, non- controversial topic. Discuss all the interesting hobbies you've ever indulged in and relate some interesting anecdotes related to them. Learn something about your date's hobbies too. Never presume that just because you are interested in something, your date is too. Ask. That way you know for sure you are not boring your date to death. Keep your eyes on your date! All this is essential for a successful date

Keep it light and simple. Politics and religion are absolute no-no topics on a date. Don't bombard your date with heavy -duty questions and don't hog the conversation either. Give your date the opportunity to initiate any conversation he wants to as well as time to respond to you. The key is to relax and have a balanced conversation.To have a successful date look directly at your date when either of you is speaking and really listen to what he is saying.This will no doubt make a succesful date.

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Internet Dating Advice - 7 Internet Dating Tips For Men

When you are using internet dating sites, there are some critical rules you must follow if you want to have success getting phone numbers and winning dates. Here are seven guidelines that you should adhere too.

1. Your Photos Are Important

When guys first email me asking for advice, or complaining that they are not getting responses from women online I usually find out that they have either one bad photo or no photos up on there profile.

A lot of guys will try and play down the importance of pictures and say things like status and personality and much more important for men than looks which is true. However, the way you present yourself is a great indicator of both your personality and your status. If you are dressed in a tailored suit, then you are probably going to convey executive.

If you were dressed in a Hawaiian shirt, Levi Jeans and a pair of sandals, then you are probably going to be something entire different. These stereotypes also lead people to assume something about your personality and in turn you get grouped in the same personality type as everybody that person has ever met from that stereotype.

While women do not care about good looks as much as men do, how you look is critical. Understanding the difference between being good looking and looking good is critically important when it comes to attracting women. You want to avoid being placed in a stereotype, in particular a bad stereotype for example a boring account or a hippy. How you dress and present yourself becomes even more important via the internet as women have nothing else to judge you on than what is in your profile.

2. Use Creative Headlines To Stand Out

Grabbing attention is one of the biggest issuing facing anyone using the internet today. Lets face it we all receive dozens of emails per day, some from friends, some family, some work related ones, some from companies trying to sell us something, others from newsletters we have signed up to, some annoying chain emails and some trying to sell us Viagra. Women in a lot of cases get even more emails than men, in particular women who use online dating and social networking sites get a lot more than men.

The reason why is simple, every other guy has realized what a great way too meet women online dating is and is sending every girl the same email hoping for a reply. It usually reads something like this "Hey sexy, you are really hot, anyway add me at imadouche@hotmail.com if you want to chat, hopefully talk later babe." I'll get into why this is the completely wrong way to contact a woman and what you should be doing instead later.

Trying something that will stand out, something with a little extra substance, something that will get you noticed. Now that does not mean abusing a woman, being rude or derogatory in any way. Find something in her profile that stands out or make a comment about what all the other guys are doing, maybe something like "Sick of every guy sending you the same thing?" This will probably get you some attention and get her too read it. Now she has opened it, it's now time to back it up with some substance.

3. Avoid Free Dating Sites.

I can count the amount of Free Online Dating sites I would recommend you using on one hand, they are currently Plenty Of Fish, Myspace and Facebook, most of the others I have try have been very sparsely active, full of deadwood, full of spam and a complete waste of time, especially sites like Craigslist Personals.

It never ceases to amaze me the amount of guys who email me asking for advice that are both using these dead wood free online dating sites and who have only got one bad picture or no pictures of them up online. It's like they either like staying single because it gives them something to complain about, they have low self esteem and they are embarrassed to show their face on the internet. Grow up, if you don't have the balls to show your face on the internet, or are worried about your privacy grow up. 70% of the adult single population is online in America and chances are the statistics are similar where you are too.

If you are serious about meeting a woman then you should be prepared to invest some money into doing so. Even if you are on sites like Lavalife and are not paying then you are wasting your time because you cannot contact anyone. Having a woman approach you when you are not even prepared to pay too meet someone is not likely as it shows you are not that serious about meeting someone. If you are on a shoe string budget may you can try Find Me Date Me and see if it works, I haven't had time yet.

4. Learn How To Compliment Women The Right Way

This one might see simple, yet almost ever guy screws this one up big time. Every guy tries to get in the good books by giving her an amazing compliment. The only problem is she has heard the exact same thing from 20 other guys 10 times a week, 52 times a year for the past five years rehashed hundreds of different ways.

For that reason alone I suggest that you never again give a woman a compliment on her physical appearance. Even worse is giving a woman a compliment with out referring to anything specific, for example calling a woman hot or sexy. Instead trying something a little different, find something about her that is in her profile that you like, even if it is just something that is conveyed by her pictures.

The key to giving her sincere praise is too tell her why you like what you a complementing her on.

5. Communicate The Same Way You Do In Real Life

You are more likely to be a lot more successful if you have a real conversation with a woman online. Write the same way you talk to someone in real life. Using this kind of communicate creates rapport and makes meeting online seem a lot more normal and lowers her guard to meeting you as she feels like she already knows you.

A few strategies you can deploy to make things a bit more personable is use her first name, bust her balls a little about something in her profile, give her a nick name and write like you are old friends.

6. Create Rapport

Most guys either judge women on their looks and beauty or talk about themselves in an attempt to impress her. Asking questions make things more perosnal. You are interacting with someone you only know on face value you are going too need to ask some questions too get to know her.

Avoid the job interview type questions and ask something more interesting or a little more out there.

7. Always Be Closing

Make sure you always follow your ABC's [Always Be Closing] as you can waste a lot of time going to go no where fast on Internet Dating sites if you aren't focused on closing.

After each email, phone call or point of contact make sure you are taking the lead and suggesting the next logical point of escalation.

Now I want to make sure you implement each one of these changes and notice how your success improves greatly. All these factors are critical too your success so it is important that you address all seven areas.

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Online Dating Tip - The 3 Questions That Can Save You Time and Trouble

One of the most powerful things about online dating is its ability to break down barriers. People who are from entirely different backgrounds and beliefs are able to come together by realizing they have more things in common than they realize. If the same situation was presented to them in the offline world than the chances are they would not be receptive. Not to say that internet dating online is one large community free of hang-ups where you will find the love of your life instantly. It is not and no one should fool themselves into thinking otherwise.

Like the offline world, online dating requires continuous learning about the other person. In fact it may be a little more detailed since it requires the proper image that puts you in a more positive light as well as constant messaging and chatting before you even decide to meet face to face. For this reason it is crucial to ask certain questions to let you know where the other person stands.

1. What are you looking for in a potential partner?

This is a pretty basic question but you would be surprised at how many people it trips up. Why because many people do not have a clue as to what they are looking for in the other person. Pay special attention to their answer. Do they go into detail that pleases you or turns you off? If they say they don't know than that is a clear indication to take the relationship even slower and a little bit more cautiously. That "I don't know" response maybe genuine or they could be hiding something.

2. If you have done this before how did it go?

You may find yourself attracted to a person who has gone through the online dating experience previously. If things did not go well pay attention to how they express it. Do they trash the other person unmercifully or do they blame themselves to the point of unhealthy self pity? There is nothing wrong with singing the blues about what went wrong but if their answer is at either extreme than watch out.

3. What makes a good relationship?

When they answer do they talk in terms of an equal partnership or does it seem like one person (you) should go out their way to meet the majority of expectations of the other person (them)? This is an excellent question for gauging what your relationship will be like if you choose to pursue it.

Keep in mind that even if they answer all of these questions to your satisfaction, you should let your instincts play a major role in your decision making process. In some cases the person could be giving you the answers they think you want to hear and not necessarily what they believe. Now it maybe they like you so much they want to please you or it could be deception plain and simple. You do not know so use your instincts and take it slow.

You are not asking these questions to start an argument or make the other person uncomfortable but to get a sense of what the future may hold for the both of you. Therefore do not be afraid to ask. If the other person is really on the same wavelength as you then they will be only too happy to answer. Also be ready to offer your take on these questions. A big part of a good relationship is communication and that involves some give and take on everybody's part.

Internet dating online is a phenomenon that will only continue to grow. Be honest and ask a lot of questions but also stay alert to anything that concerns your safety and security.

The Price of Believing Before Seeing

Long-Term Relationships

Long-term relationships and marriages can sometimes be taken too much for granted. The initial spark and excitement fades with time and partners can be left wondering if they still belong together. We all need to work on keeping our relationships together.

Tips for Lasting Relationships

Time for each other : Partners need to value the time they spend together and create more opportunities to be alone. This is especially true when they have children and jobs which keep them busy.

Appreciation : Your partner did not have to stick by you for all this time, but he/ she did. Show appreciation for being accepted as imperfect as you are. This is one investment that you'll get back. You sow appreciation to reap appreciation.

Loving and Saying it : Never get tired of saying "I love you" and demonstrating it. People don't just know they are loved, they need to be assured. If your partner loves flowers, get flowers once in a while.

Problems : Deal with problems together as soon as they surface. Its not constructive to keep the problems to oneself and unpacking them all when there is a serious conflict.

Criticism : Carefully give criticism in a manner that is reassuring of love.

Accept Correction : When your partner gives you positive criticism, don't be defensive and angry over it. Listen and think about it before you give your opinion. Accepting correction is a sign of wisdom and maturity.

Encouraging : Contribute to each other's lives by giving each other ideas and showing interest in each other's careers. Be generous on your support and opinions whilst you are being honest.

Stay ONLY if it Works : Only stay in a relationship that works. Never stay in a relationship where you are abused and not respected. A relationship is a partnership with partners who treat each other equally and with love and respect.

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Online Dating Services And You

For Internet users who would like to broaden their social circles as well as get more dates, yet do not want to be seen as aggressively seeking out new friends or partners, they might like to try online dating.

An online dating service is a community of "Netizens" (people who surf the Internet) who join the community to socialize and make new friends. These services were once ostracized, considered "scary" and even dangerous. However, times have changed, and these services are slowly being accepted. It no longer has the fear and uncertainty attached to it many years ago. It is now a modern and organized approach to meeting people and making new friends.

There are many ways to get to know new people. Attending events, physically registering at dating agencies, speed dating, or even putting up personals in classified sites (popular sites like Ablewise.com Classifieds have extensive categories for personals). But the question now is, "Why online dating?"

There are lots of benefits to utilizing online dating services. It is does not require huge amounts of money, simple to navigate and use, fast, and can be quite enjoyable too. For people who fear being rejected, online dating offers transient anonymity, via the computer screen, for the initial stage of meeting someone new. But the most important benefit is that online dating is flexible. You can do it any time and anywhere, as long as you have a computer and are connected to the Internet.

To get started, just type in "online dating" or "online dating service" in any search engine and tons of pages with relevance will appear in the results. Once you find a site that you like, simply sign up with the site, using only an active email address as a minimum requirement. Some dating sites require a minimal subscription, some do not. Most dating sites also offer free profile hosting for their members. So you can start filling in your profile immediately after signing up.

Although it is not 100% safe, online dating is still one of the best ways for busy working people to increase their social circle. As long as you are always careful and avoid dubious characters, it should be fun. However, always keep in mind this: say "No" if you do not feel comfortable or good about something.

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Important Questions To Ask In Your First Date

After joining dating services, you are required to post your profile and perhaps you will also wish to upload your photo, the best looking photo that you have ever taken. Now you are going to chat with a contact. The first problem you may encounter will probably be how to shortlist the potential candidates in the dating sites' database? You need to find out more about who this strange woman really is and not just who she wants you to believe she is.

You need to know what mistakes you can avoid in your first meeting. Firstly, after the opening talk, you should ask her about what are the greatest mistakes guys make when dating online. Listen attentively to her replies (women hate men who do not listen attentively when she talks). This will lead her to tell you about herself and her views on men in general. Now you know her expectations...

Secondly, you should ask her view about online dating. She would tell you if she has had any bad experiences dating on line and help you to avoid making the same mistake.

Last but not least, ask her the reason that caused the break up in her last relationship. If she responded with the entire curse and swears on the guy, then the right thing to do is to tell her that you are sorry about what she had experienced and say goodbye as soon as possible. Your time will be better spent on identifying the next possible candidate on your list. If she takes all the blame herself, you should probably do the same. If she says the break-up was by mutual consent or that the relationship just was not right for either of them, that is probably something more pleasant (although it may not be true, especially if she happen visit www.lovecot.com and read this article). You have a better reason to move on with this lady.

Again, if the woman is not suitable for you, for whatever reason, do not shut the door completely as you can still maintain normal friendship with her. She could be a very nice ordinary friend.

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Dating Web Site - The How Tips for Newbies

The dating web site market is a growing industry that offers singles opportunity to find their mates online. It is a way of meeting people that are also interested in ending their unmarried life. But, it is not easy to be successful in the growing world of dating sites. You might have heard of some people who haven't been successful in finding a mate over the internet, or maybe you are even one of them who have tried to but with no success. Here are tips on how to attract more people to respond to you.

First, you need a good dating web site. Search over the World Wide Web, and look for those who had been around the longest. They are usually the ones who have the most members. Then, make an interesting profile that describes who you are. But, do not reveal everything about you. Do not state lengthy descriptions, and specify what you are looking for. Next, pose for a picture that gives you a statement of your personality. For instance, if you are an outdoor person, take a picture of you and your hobby. Show your half body and full body pictures. Let's face it; people tend to be superficial at times.

After settling your account and profile, it is time for you to make contact with other members online. Do not be scared to initiate a conversation with someone you like. If you are the shy type, you can start with one contact at a time. It is advisable; however, if you send messages to several people whom, you think, is a match. Try giving an appealing heading, and spice it up with questions regarding their profiles. It gives them the idea that you really are interested. But, be wary of being too personal. It is unattractive for most people to go too fast. It is always advisable to keep a reasonable distance and take it one step at a time until both of you are ready to kick it up a notch.

After a few conversations on the dating web site, both of you may already be ready to start communicating through the phone. It always helps to be extra careful. It also helps to be honest as this can be the only way to tell if you have a future together. Furthermore, it is advisable not to be anxious in planning your date. You might find yourself overly preparing it. Remember, first dates are first dates; they are still full of uncertainties. It is better if you have it somewhere public where you two can be safe and still enjoy. It is also helpful if you tell some of your friends that you are going on a first date with a person you met through the dating web site. It can both be for your safety, and gives you opportunity to leave if the date doesn't go well.

Meeting people through a dating web site can be tricky. It entails time and patience for you to succeed in looking for love through sites like these. But, it can be easier over time and with experience. Needless to say, you still need to exercise extra caution to make sure you're protected.

So, the next time you choose and sign up for a dating web site, try to keep these guidelines in mind. Who knows, the next one you meet might just be "the one".

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Top Ten Ways To Impress A Woman

Let's start with number one. Do not try and impress her. I was reading recently regarding this subject that women in general can see right through it when a man is trying to impress them. In actual fact it is one of the sure fire ways of her knowing that you like her and that you may be going over the top.

Number 2 - Honesty, for the love of God do not go over to woman and BS your mouth off. This is the number one killer when it comes to impressing women. Be yourself and be honest.

Number 3 - A good decent smile. That's right do not stand there like you are awaiting the death sentence. Sure she may reject you but at least have a smile on your face.

Number 4 - Good manners really impress a woman. Now you may think that the modern woman does not want the door opened for her because she is independent and so on - but this is not the case today as it wasn't yesterday. Women like good manners.

Number 5 - Do not take yourself too seriously. Have a sense of humor. Be willing to poke fun at yourself. Have a laugh and make her laugh. This helps to get all parties involved relaxed and having fun and she will be impressed by it.

Number 6 - Be sensitive towards her. Be considerate and understand her needs. You do not need to be some rude hard ass who is just trying to show off.

Number 7 - Having the smarts really helps. Intelligence is a very attractive trait. Intelligence comes with substance and ones own understanding. Generally those who are intelligent are independent yet socially and conversationally adaptable.

Number 8 - This is a given. Be thoughtful. Listen to her and do not try and override what she is saying with your opinion. Be thoughtful relative to her sensitivities.

Number 9 - Having a job helps to impress and being able to keep that job may even impress her more. However it is not just about having a job, running your own business will also be impressive. If you find you are in a dead beat job at present the very aspiration to do better will also impress her.

Number 10 - Last but not least be sincere. Once again do not jump on the BS train. Women are impressed by sincerity.

Guy's if you are serious about getting the girl of your dreams then you need to seriously work on solid techniques to achieve your goal. If you know what a girl is thinking it is far easier to approach her. If You want to learn the tested psychological secrets of the female mind given to you by a woman because after all only a woman truly knows what a woman wants, then select one of the following links... You can learn this and a lot more.

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The Perfect Man - Score a Perfect 10 and Be Phenomenal

Guys often ask me in my column to describe the perfect man. Is there such a thing or it just a clich?.a silly ideal that no man should even waste his time trying to attain? Do you remember that movie with Bo Derek years ago - "10"? It may be hard to do, but I DO know a few perfect 10's who are men - and while they are all ATTRACTIVE guys, it's not only their looks that makes them so sexy - so don't let that stop you from going for it! Let's look at some of the other important traits of a phenomenally sexy and sensual guy who makes beautiful women MELT. even if at first blush he may not be her type physically speaking.

Women love a spiritual guy. Not necessarily a religious thing though...more of a man who feels some sense of purpose to his life. A connection, a sense of destiny is a powerful and VERY amorous thing in a guy...while most men whittle away worrying about nonsense and small stuff. Occasionally you will come in contact with a guy who's connected to some larger purpose. Simply stated - this is very appealing - and all women (at least the kind YOU want) will find this hard to resist.

A Passionate guy will make me weak. Women love a guy who just gets involved and takes what he wants....Men with passion and conviction are very appealing as well. Hey - look at Bill Clinton all those years before he became President..:-) He was never the best looking guy in room - but women just fall over themselves for a guy who is smart, savvy and full of energy. The truth is - you can find yours, and regardless of what you LOOK like - your urgency and achievement will make all sorts of women you THINK are out of your range come falling at your feet! Trust me, on this I am sure!

And the last thing I'll mention here is Power. And I don't' necessarily mean the kind of power you are thinking of - although it's hard to argue that status, money and social position can't take a very average man and making him INSTANTLY alluring and amorous....But I am talking about the kind of power than comes with confidence...that sense of calm, self - assuredness and just "it" that some guys have. This is the thing guys - if you have to master on thing, it's to carry yourself with killer confidence. Beautiful women, given any group of options will ALWAYS fall for the confident guy ahead of the pretty one - so I don't care what you look like on the outside - if you can capture your charisma quickly - you are going to get your way with women everywhere, I promise!

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How To Attract Girls In 3 Simple Effective Ways

When people start to think how they can be more attractive they tend to look away from themselves. They go after material possessions and hope with glamour and glitz they will attract the partner of their dreams. While this can be effective in some circles it does not change the fact that it lacks substance.

Sure temporarily you may be able to "wow" somebody but over the long term people get bored with possessions and want the next best thing. As they say "easy come easy go". Why do you think we tend to have a high divorce rate in the material world - in places like Hollywood where money seems to be the overriding influence?

On the other hand character requires substance and it's not a fleeting trait. Some of the best wines in the world come form the hardest working vines that are mature and produce quality grapes.

The first real attractive trait is maturity. Maturity does not mean old age. Maturity comes from independence and ones own understanding. Somebody who is serious about life and living it - not sitting back and letting it pass you by. Women like mature men in that sense.

Leadership is a quality that is attractive. This is somebody who is not afraid to be who they are. They take initiative and make things happen. A follower on the other hand is insecure and depending on the mood of the day will jump around looking for the next best thing. Women like guys who take control and are independent. They can do things for themselves and get things done.

Thirdly Communication and intellectual curiosity is a positive trait. Maturity and intelligence go hand in hand. Smart guys work smart and do not pander. They are conversationally adaptable and don't rely on others to get things done.

Guy's if you are serious about getting the girl of your dreams then you need to seriously work on solid techniques to achieve your goal. If you know what a girl is thinking it is far easier to approach her. If You want to learn the tested psychological secrets of the female mind given to you by a woman because after all only a woman truly knows what a woman wants, then select one of the following links... You can learn this and a lot more.

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Bars and Clubs - The Grand Illusion

As you walk out of a bar or club, having just spent almost half a day's pay on what is supposed to be entertainment, have you ever asked yourself why you keep repeating this behavior every weekend? If not, ask yourself this, "What is the entertainment here?" Is it the ringing in your ears caused by music that is louder than an airport tarmac? Or what about the worthless piece of paper you carry in your pocket given to you by a girl that has no intention of ever going out with you-a girl who only jotted down some digits to get you to go away so she can go back to dancing and drinking with her friends.

Bars and clubs merely give the illusion of a good time for young men, a promise of lovely ladies with sex and love in the near future. In actuality, nothing could be further from the truth. Women go to bars and clubs to drink, dance, and have a good time. A good time to them does not mean meeting their next boyfriend while sloshed. It means flirting with men to practice their skills, teasing men to get off on it, and getting a call from them 2-3 days later that will validate her beauty, letting her know she's still pretty enough to hook a potential suitor-one she meets outside of a bar or club.

Right now you're probably asking, "But where else am I supposed to go on a Friday night?" Well I don't know the answer to that question. I'm still looking for it myself. One thing's for sure though; bars and clubs are nothing more than a mirage in the social marketplace. What you believe is a perfectly good opportunity to meet women merely acts as a vortex to suck away your time, money, and hope of meeting someone for sex or love.

There are of course the occasional aberrations. You might get lucky and find a girl who just wants to get lucky or you might find one that is so drunk she doesn't care that she's going home with a total stranger. I suppose it's these occurrences which keep us going back looking for more, hoping to repeat our success from that night. The once-in-a-blue-moon payout seems to be enough for us guys. Otherwise, why would we return again and again?

Of course, the smart man doesn't spend his time and money on these kinds of odds, he finds a game where the return is much better than leaving one's success to chance. Surely, there must be another game out there somewhere, one hidden from view like a poker game tucked away in the back of a speakeasy. There's something better out there for us men on a Friday night, a place where the odds are good, the intentions of women are more honorable, and the payout comes in spades.

Let me know when you find it.

? 2008 J.T. Malloy

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Why Women Reject Men - Discover Their Stunning Secret

In this article we are going to look at some of the common reasons women reject men, and how you can make sure you avoid the humiliation and embarrassment that most of us associate with being turned away. Lets take a closer look at why women aren't constantly throwing themselves at your feet when you make your move.

First of all, women are much more complex emotional creatures than guys. We have different needs, a different mental makeup and at the end of the day, a much more complex emotional landscape than you do! I know this may be controversial to say, but it's true for me and also true for many of my friends who I've confided in. A woman wants to be protected and cared for first and foremost. Even if she's assertive and outgoing and even demanding. She still wants to be taken care of, and be kept safe. Are you the kind of guy that makes her feel this way? If not, chances are, she will find one who is. Or secretly desires a stronger, "alpha-male" kind of guy who will take charge and lead when things get dicey in life, and in a relationship.

Are you really needy? This is a sure sign you are heading for rejection. A woman wants a guy who loves her and protects her and of course she wants him to pay attention. But if you over do it and need constant approval and to know where she is and what's she's doing at all times, she is probably thinking of a way out, even if she won't admit it yet.

What about when you've just met a new girl and she turns you down cold? Look, the key again is confidence. It's VERY sexy. You need to learn what to say and how to say it. Women love a guy who knows how to handle himself, and you can spot this a mile away in dark room with bad lighting. A confident man takes control and commands respect. Most women will gravitate to this kind of guy and he will experience much LESS rejection!

Well, I hope this has helped you see a little bit better why you may not be getting your way with the women you have in your sights. Of course there is more, but this is a good start, and you should be able to take the first few steps to minimizing your rejection and maximizing your rewards with beautiful women everywhere! Good luck!

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Nice Guys DO Finish Last - Here is Why You Won't

Are you a nice guy? The kind of guy that every woman should want to bring home to mom and dad? Do your friends tell you that you deserve better when you get rejected, and do have lots of friends who are women, but who simply "don't like you like that"? If you, guess what? You are suffering from a severe case of being too "bland to bring to bed". Lets work on fixing it, and doing it right now.

Look, I'm just going to be honest, ok? I don't to hurt anyone's feelings, but sometimes tough love IS in order. Being nice is great. Being a pushover though is not. Often "nice" is simply a euphemism for boring. Remember when they used to say a woman had a "great personality" before you met her? Well, that's what they are saying about you, and we all know it's the kiss of death for getting a hot, in demand woman who has her choice of options. Almost always she is going to jump at a nice guy who also happens to have an edge, be exciting and lives a little dangerously, too.

Here are some things you can do right now. Start taking some chances in life. Go out on the frothy edge a little bit. Be more adventurous and straddle that "bad boy" line a little bit with your attitude. Remember the devil may care attitude you had as a kid? Get it back. The devil is VERY sexy if he's got a sweet side too..;-) Hey, I'm not going to tell you to go out and get a few tattoos and a harley to go with that electrical engineering degree, but a backpack a free spirit attitude and a willingness to travel will get you FAR further than a box of candy and a dozen roses.

Look, you are a good guy. And that is something we ALL want. But we need an edge to stay interested. I can't tell you how many quality guys I know eventually "settle" for someone far less than they could have gotten with a little bit of spice mixed in to their game. And you CAN learn this stuff, too..even if it's not your natural personality habitat, you can fake it till you make it and she'll be totally head over heels in love with you BEFORE she realizes you simply a sweetheart after all..:-) Nice guys can finish first, after all, if they know how to be bad once in a while as

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How Do I Approach A Girl - Firstly Understand These Facts

Often time's guys prejudge situations. In actual fact it is not just guys girls also do it. They have notions like she will never talk to me. She is too good for me. She is out of my league. These are all thoughts which you may entertain and as a result get nowhere.

If you do entertain such notions then you must understand the truth. If you never talk to her you will never get with her. This is an undeniable fact. I have yet to see a married couple that never spoke to one another. I have seen a married couple that started speaking to one another and ended up not speaking to one another.

First things first, when you understand this fact then in your heart of hearts know that you will have to talk to a stranger. A stranger simply put is somebody you have not had the good fortune to meet yet, that may very well become a friend. As a result you need to understand the fact that you will have to take action.

Number 2 is understanding rejection. There are many variables when it comes to rejection. Somebody may just be having a bad day when you approached them and may not want to talk to anybody they do not know. Secondly they may not be a very fun caring personality so they are not into meeting new people. So rejection in this case means what? You have run in to somebody who is having a bad day, who is not open to new people or who is otherwise engaged.

Thirdly what has this got to do with you? So somebody rejects you. Does this make you less of a person? Are you now all of a sudden bad? Just because you did not get what you want this time does that mean you are banished to hell for eternity and that all women on the planet have vanished. Basically put things into perspective. When you understand the facts of these three key factors then approaching a woman is not going to be a major problem. Just lift your head and go up there. Look her in the eyes and what ever will be will be.

Guy's if you are serious about getting the girl of your dreams then you need to seriously work on solid techniques to achieve your goal. If you know what a girl is thinking it is far easier to approach her. If You want to learn the tested psychological secrets of the female mind given to you by a woman because after all only a woman truly knows what a woman wants, then select one of the following links... You can learn this and a lot more.

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